The EX!!

So I would never have thought that my ex-husband and I would be at this point. I never thought I wouldn't care one bit about him or the miserable situation he has gotten himself into. The "amicable" divorce we began in January of 2006 and finalized not so amicably in April of 2007 should've been the writing on the wall for me, shouldn't it have? Even after all of his infedilities, you would think I would have hated him! But I didn't. I just wanted out of a miserable relationship. And I still cared about him!! I wanted us to remain friends - good friends even - for the sake of the children. And the naive side of me that believes there is good in everyone and that everyone wants what is best for their children convinced me that post-divorce would be smooth sailing! As if!!

Now, our communications are limited to short e-mails and correspondence between our attorneys. How sad the world is when, as an adult, some parents cannot put their own feelings aside to do what is best for our children? Sometimes, I almost feel that parents like this are worse than dead-beat ones. Why? Because the stress of dealing with them I think is far more trying! But I've never been without my child support, so I can't say that is true for sure!! As it stands right now, I not only have to deal with him, but his new wife. Yes, he married wife #4 two months after our divorce was final. So much for "spending some quality time alone." And believe me when I say, kudos to her for diving into a marriage with a man who has had three failed marriages and children from each of them. And yes, his child support payments are astounding!! The only thing I ask from her is to be treated with decency and respect. Especially by a woman that I have never, ever wronged!!! But I guess that is too much to ask! So, I have to suffice with pretending the woman is not standing 10 feet from me when I drop my children off at her house. I ignore her in order to keep from cutting through her with my laser eyes. LOL

With that being said, you would think that when I heard that he e-mailed a friend and told her that his new wife was obsessively controlling and overly jealous of any female in his life (explains why she hates me), that I would feel a since of sadness for him. Nope, not so much!! This man has allowed the new wife to control his life so much that his 16 year-old son doesn't even speak to him. And his 20 year-old son moved out of his house because of the situation. Hello!! Wake up before you lose your other two children. He's just lucky that they are too young to understand why Daddy doesn't spend as much time with them as he used to.

And don't get me started on my boyfriend's ex-wife. He is in the middle of a grueling legal battle just to gain standard visitation rights of his 3 year-old daughter. So I will keep mum about that until after the trial. But watch out, because when that's over, I have a few words to say!! That woman is certifiable!!