BAD GRANDMA

So, to start off with, I had an amazing grandmother, otherwise known as Granny. Her whole life revolved around her grandkids. She lived across the street from us. She took care of me, my brother and sister while my Mother and Father worked. She bathed us, fed us, made sure we napped. But most of all, she loved us. I can't remember a day in her life that she didn't have a smile on her face. She was surrounded by kids and she loved it. And when she was suffering from the final stages of Alzheimer's, it was her grandchildren that were there for her. We loved her dearly and mourn the loss of her daily.

Fast forward a few decades. Granny passed away just shortly after her first great-grandchild was born, my son Braden. Braden is now 10 years old. My other son Brycen is 8. My brother and his wife have also had two children since Granny's passing who are 2 and 9 months. Granny's daughter, our Mother, is nothing like Granny. She is so selfish. She doesn't want to spend any time with her grandchildren, unless other people are around to see it and "marvel" at her grandparenting skills. Good grief. Does anyone have one of these in your lives? And I have read so many blogs or responses to blogs that say it's ok for grandparents to act in such a way because "you've raised your kids. Let your children raise theirs. You aren't a baby-sitter." Really? Then what was my Granny? My Mother depended on her to take care of us. There was no way my Mother could have afforded daycare. My Granny was the only reason my Mother was able to work. So, is it that my Mother is selfish or that my Granny cared for us so much that my Mother was spoiled and didn't have to care for us the way a full-time Mom would have. So now she has no idea how to be a full-time Grandma. I don't know what it is. What I do know is that my children and my niece and nephew deserve to have a Granny in their lives. And sadly enough, they will never know what it's like to be loved by a grandparent who loves them unconditionally, expects nothing in return and will always be there for them. Sad!!!! Sad!!!!